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Lana Del Rey - “Ultraviolence”

The video of Lana Del Ray matched with the lyrics of the song further romanticize abuse in a relationship. The video is about love as Lana prepares for what seems to be a wedding. But the lyrics suggest a more abusive relationship with her partner.

With lyrics like, “I can hear sirens, sirens. He hit me and it felt like a kiss. I can hear violins, violins. Give me all of that Ultraviolence” the song suggests that she views the abuse she is receiving as love. “She finds pleasure in being abused. The “ultraviolence” between them is getting so rough that someone called police. She is comparing the pleasure she receives from being manhandled to the pleasure she gets from hearing music. Violins also represent romance and sadness, fitting well with Lana romanticizing the violence.” (RapGenius.com)

As pointed out by musicinsideu.com, Lana’s lyrics point to an abused childhood “he hit me… reminded me of when we were kids.” Some victims never recover. Some believe they must continue being victimized so as to be loved. “He hurt me but it felt like true love.” Some victims become victimizers later, thinking that hurting is the only way to show love. They can’t find a way out of the cycle of ultraviolence in their lives. Both remain locked in meaningless violence as the only way left of self-expression.

Her man beats on her and tells her she’s no good, and she’ll take it provided he doesn’t leave. This is a classic situation in a controlling and abusive relationship. Its complex stuff but one thing’s for sure: “Ultraviolence” is no one’s idea of a healthy relationship.

(Source: youtube.com)

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Saying that a killer ‘snapped’ is not an explanation for domestic violence

This story has been circulating in the past few days. The language used in reporting about domestic violence is indicator how our society views domestic violence, we try justify the killer/abuser/perpetrators actions.

"The irony is that battered women often do blame themselves, or make excuses for the men beating them, or hope their husband’s behavior is a fluke, not to be repeated."

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"We will speak up for you. You are not alone." -Sara Barber, Executive Director of SCCADVASA. 

Each day we will post a message of hope from someone from our staff here at SCCADVASA! Share a Message of Hope today! Tag your message with#VoicesHavePower and Verizon Wireless will donate $3 to end domestic and dating violence. The National Network to End Domestic Violence

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A lot can happen in a minute. For most a minute can be a very short amount of time. But for some  one minute seems to be a lifetime. 
How will you use your next minute? In one minute, 24 people are abused and 250,000 tweets are sent. Use your next minute to spread hope by sharing a Message of Hope tagged with #VoicesHavePower. Verizon Wireless will donate $3 to end domestic and dating violence for each message shared through August 7th. @NNEDV 

Let’s use this minute to give a voice to the voiceless, because VOICES HAVE POWER!

A lot can happen in a minute. For most a minute can be a very short amount of time. But for some  one minute seems to be a lifetime. 

How will you use your next minute? In one minute, 24 people are abused and 250,000 tweets are sent. Use your next minute to spread hope by sharing a Message of Hope tagged with #VoicesHavePower. Verizon Wireless will donate $3 to end domestic and dating violence for each message shared through August 7th. @NNEDV 

Let’s use this minute to give a voice to the voiceless, because VOICES HAVE POWER!

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